Healthier Relationships with Human Design Insights
Are you someone who makes assumptions?
Be honest with yourself…
We all have the tendency to make assumptions about everything, but the problem is we believe they are the truth. Our corrupted belief systems create a lot of negative chaos which causes us to perceive, misinterpret, and misunderstand. We only see what we want to see through our own lens, we don’t always perceive things the way they are actually intended, everything is filtered through our unique belief systems which are different from everyone else’s around us.
If we do not understand something, we make assumptions about its meaning and make all sorts of shit up. When the truth comes out, we find out our assumptions were just made-up lies in our heads shaped by our corrupted belief systems. We might even start to defend these assumptions, creating drama, gossiping, projecting our fears, judging, and creating negative emotions to cling to these assumptions we created. The assumption got too big.
How many of us have done this?
It is simply better to ask for clarification, ask questions, and be sure because making assumptions sets us and everyone around us up for suffering. A classic example of this could be in the context of relationships and friendships, especially when considering the dynamics of different Human Design configurations. We might assume that people know us so well they understand us. So, we don’t express what we really feel or want. Why would we? They know us so well. But when they don’t meet our unspoken expectations and preferences, we get hurt and resentment comes along and says things like, “You should have known.” A whole drama is created around that, and then more assumptions are piled on top of that. For example, one might think, ‘They don’t know me, I’m not important enough in their life.’
How many of us have done this?
With clear and honest communication, all of our relationships, including the ones with ourselves, become so much healthier. There would be no misunderstandings from the beginning. The truth can and will hurt, and it can be very inconvenient to our ego, but if we want to improve our relationships, we need to stop making assumptions.
Understanding how you have been conditioned through learning your Human Design Chart can guide you in this process. When we have a frequent low sense of self-worth, or we are insecure in our relationships or show behaviours of self-sabotage/doubt it’s a sign our belief system has been corrupted.
Becoming aware of negative behaviour patterns that create unhelpful assumptions is an important step. Having access to a Human Design Reading can offer profound insights into these patterns because you gain a deep awareness of your shadow traits and the keys to unlocking healthier communication styles and relationship interactions.
Next time we wonder what’s going on, and if we feel it’s our business to know more, we need to stay open to discernment and get clarification instead of making assumptions.
Acknowledging – The Third Agreement – A Book by Don Miguel Ruiz
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